Ah, come on! Is this some sort of joke? I’m tired most of the time. I’m working night and day to make ends meet. I’m neglecting most of the activities that used to define what I would refer to as “me.” What was it that was choking me by the throat? You’re a family man, shrieked sternly in my head. I had been a father going on ten years…and it wasn’t getting any easier. In fact, the constant state of responsibility and sacrifice had left me joking with my similarly struggling friends that … [Read more...] about I’m Number One!
It’s been over two decades that I’ve served as an expert witness in the mental health field on various legal matters. In addition, I’ve had the experience of being an impartial observer to litigated matters involving friends and family, ranging from marital disillusion, child custody, contract disputes and accidents. Most of the people involved in these cases I knew to be decent and honorable souls. Yet as I watched the legal process unfold from the initial filing of the case all the way through in … [Read more...] about Legal-Lies
It must be a sentimental time in my life because I keep reflecting back on past events that have touched me. So many encounters and transaction take place in our lives over the course of weeks, months and years that we tend to forget almost all of them. Yet it’s funny how a few stand out, and those are the ones we never let loose. Some are negative and some are positive, some are awe-inspiring and some are plain awe-ful. It’s because of their sheer strength and potency that we bank them in the forever … [Read more...] about My Angels Didn’t Fly
When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years—Mark Twain This is my absolute favorite quote. I recall the first time I read it laughing and laughing. Then each occasion when an incident would tweak my memory and Twain’s words popped up, I’d laugh again—not as jubilantly when I was the old man hearing my own boy similarly reference me. So convincing was my … [Read more...] about Parental Ignorance
He was known by the name of Emil, so denominated by a local who took the shaggy-haired man to be a rival, though since his coming a week prior from...nobody had ever been inclined to ask…he exhibited not a sign of animosity or aggression toward anyone. To the contrary, he wandered aimlessly through the streets with a perpetually contented gaze, as if his heart soared discernibly above his head but his mind just the same seeming to be absorbing every detail of his surroundings. From a small cloth sack … [Read more...] about Deadly Orange
This is not a tale about race, culture or any other categorization of mankind. Rather, the story addresses the universal human trait of will, in this case determination driven by love of family, particularly parental devotion. It’s a brief account that might better be titled, The Anatomy of Heroism. I remember it was winter. Los Angeles is not known for rainstorms but this day brought a rare downpour to my neighborhood. Owing to the inclement conditions I left home early. As I was walking down the … [Read more...] about Juan Rivera